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Being assertive means to demonstrate self-respect and self-confidence while being aware of and having respect for others.

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The basic idea behind assertiveness is expressing your needs, wants, beliefs, and values in an open way that doesn’t violate the rights of other people. Imagine assertiveness as the steady balancing point on a spectrum of communication styles. On one far end of that spectrum is aggressiveness and on the opposite end is passiveness.1 Some people believe that assertiveness is the same as aggressiveness, but there are some very basic differences. Assertive communication demonstrates self-respect and self-confidence, in addition to awareness of and respect for others. It begins when you look at the world from the position that you are worthwhile and have rights AND that others are also worthwhile and have rights.2 
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Learn what assertiveness is and what it can do for you from Psychology Today.
Learn how to reduce stress and communicate better through assertiveness training from Mayo Clinic.
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