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Roommate Mental Health Concerns

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If your roommate suffers from depression, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts, it can be challenging to know how to be supportive and understanding. Learn how you can offer support and get your roommate help.
  • Keep a caring atmosphere in your apartment
  • Look for emotional or verbal warning signs
  • Offer support with love and kindness
  • Get help if needed

Apartment Atmosphere Matters

An apartment is more than just a place to sleep and store your stuff. Your apartment can be a home where warmth and friendship strengthen every roommate and offers support.

When you create a caring atmosphere at home, you can strengthen the mental well-being of all roommates. Positive human connection makes it easier to prevent potential mental health concerns.

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Mental Illness Warning Signs

Become aware of your roommates’ behaviors by looking for emotional markers or verbal signs that might suggest he or she is suffering from a mental health concern.

Emotional Signs

Your roommate might be suffering with deep emotional pain if he or she experiences:

  • Feelings of depression 
  • Lack of interest in favorite activities 
  • Mood swings 
  • Irritability
  • Crying for no reason
  • Isolation
  • Impulsive behaviors
  • Sleeps too much
  • Overspends
  • Tries to avoid others
  • Lack of personal care or hygiene
  • Poor academic performance or resistance to anything school-related
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10 Common Warning Signs Of A Mental Health Condition

Verbal Signs

Roommates with mental health issues might make unusual comments such as:

  • Feeling like they have no purpose
  • Immense feelings of shame 
  • Feeling like a burden 
  • Wishing they did not exist 
  • Desire to hurt themselves or end their lives 
  • Over expression to harm themselves

For example, a roommate might say, “What is the point for me being here?” or “I want to fall asleep and never wake up” or “Life would be better without me.”

A student suffering from anxiety and mental health concerns with a worried expression on his face.
Anxiety and depression are serious concerns for many college students.
Luis Vasquez Sebastian

For more information about possible mental health warning signs, visit the National Alliance on Mental Illness.

Offer Support for Your Struggling Roommate

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If you see any physical or verbal issues arise, it is important to ask direct questions without judgment or interruption. Example questions might include:

  • “You seem like you’re having a hard time. Do you feel alone or depressed?” 
  • “You seem sad. Can you share with me why?” 
  • “Are you having thoughts of suicide?”

Create an atmosphere of open communication by having apartment traditions, being patient, understanding, kind, and willing to openly discuss interests and concerns. Withhold judgment, especially when someone appears stressed, anxious, irritable, depressed, or withdrawn.

Keep in mind that the most important thing you can do for your roommate is to build and strengthen your friendship with your roommate by letting him or her know that you care. Show genuine concern and get help if needed.

Get Help for Your Roommate

When you have a roommate suffering with mental health concerns, get help. The sooner your roommate gets help, the faster he or she can return to a healthy life.

"If you reach out in a spirit of love and humility, you can help the spiritually wounded. . . . If you need to, talk to your bishop, call the Dean of Students, tell someone who can do something that you have a friend in trouble. Don't be silent. Don't leave the wounded on the battlefield!"
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President Kim B. Clark ("The Power of the Holy Temple," BYU-Idaho Devotional, January 15, 2008.)

Mental Health Resources

If the situation is life-threatening, call 911

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 

BYU-Idaho Counseling Center 
Phone: 208-496-9370

Madison Memorial Behavioral Health Unit 
Phone: 208-359-6900

Behavioral Crises Center of East Idaho 
Phone: 208-522-0727