Have you ever been in a situationship? If you have, then we feel sorry for you, but if you haven't, consider yourself lucky.
A situationship is when two people act like they are dating, but either one of them or both of them refuse to label it. Situationships are more commonly found in high schools or college campuses. At BYU-Idaho it seems that this kind of relationship is a canon event.
Situationships can be confusing and unhealthy, especially when they are only for NCMO’s (non-committal make-out). It's important to know when to DTR (define the relationships) and get out of the relationships when needed.
When you feel that your partner doesn't want anything serious, and you do, or vice versa, then you should communicate with them how you feel and explain what you want. Some people will avoid having these potentially difficult conversations, but that can become harmful to both people involved.
Here are some of our favorite lines we have heard from situationships, and if you hear any of these, you should run.
- “You’re amazing, I’m just not ready for a relationship.”
- “We’re just vibing—why complicate it?”
- “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”
- “I like what we have, why rush things?”
- “I don't want to ruin what we have.”
- “I’m not ready yet—but I really care about you.”
- “You deserve better than what I can give right now.”
- “Why do we have to define everything?”
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