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Dear Becky, October 11, 2005
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The roles of man and woman in the whole dating scheme is hotly debated: some think that it’s great when a guy doesn’t have to pay for everything, and some think it’s necessary that the guy makes all of the moves. What’s with this whole confusion anyway?
Recently, I was asked by a man, in person, why gals do not ask guys out more often? And then I was asked by a group of women, in person again, why they have to work so hard to get a guy to ask them out?
Isn’t that just ironic? I mean we have guy and gal students sitting around doing nothing on perfectly good date nights because no one has asked them out.
This is definitely one of the biggest problems on this campus, and the solution is to get out there, meet people and go on dates. Some will say it’s easier said than done, but really it’s equally easy to be done as said.
All you have to do is walk onto campus (which should be defined as “a Latter-day Saint watering hole for the potential dater”) and say something—anything—that could strike up a potential relationship and get you a date.
I expect to walk into the Hyrum Manwaring Center Wednesday evening and hear people saying to the student body things such as “I like to play X-box ... want to play with me?” or “I study all of the time ... want to be my study date?” It really is as simple as that.
It’s like the game Pit: pick a phrase that fits you best and then walk around saying it in a loud, strained voice until someone accepts. And when you find that someone that matches you, ding your bell because you have found the “corner on the market.”
If you think about it, students could start utilizing the time walking between classes as opportunities to get dates, freeing up even more time to actually go on dates instead of hanging out and finding someone to ask out.
For those of you who are not happy with the previous advice, maybe the subject of dating has become too serious in your life or maybe you caught the fact that I am totally pulling your chain.
The real advice is that for each person the proper technique for getting a date is different. Our parents, hometown environment and religious beliefs have nurtured each of us to become who we are today.
For example, I was raised that men are to be gentleman; however, I was also raised that it is okay for a girl to invite a male friend out for a date.
Does this make me a modern-dater who hates the old-fashioned way of life. Absolutely not. It just shows the way I decide to live my life.
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