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Class Information

Below are the date, time, location, and outline for this class.

The Weapon of Love

Taught by David Pulsipher


Day Time Location
Friday, August 2 1 p.m. Ricks 173
David Pulsipher

David Pulsipher


David Pulsipher graduated with a BA in American Studies from Brigham Young University. He further earned a PhD in this subject from the University of Minnesota.

He and his wife, Dawn, are the parents of three boys and three girls. In addition to their own children, throughout their marriage they have opened their home to many foster children through Idaho’s Department of Health and Welfare.

He has served in many capacities within the Church including a full-time mission to Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, and a variety of positions in the Young Men and Primary.

With his spare time, Pulsipher likes a good book or movie. He also enjoys going on hikes in the beautiful Idaho country.

Class Outline

When faced with aggression or conflict, our instincts are to fight, flee, or surrender. But God has prepared "a more excellent way"—a "weapon" for resisting and transforming conflict that is more effective than the weapons the world teaches us to use. This "weapon" is  strong assertive love, but the key is learning how to wield it effectively.

Learning Objectives:

  1. Conflicts occur in predictable cycles: a) drawing boundaries, b) crossing boundaries, c) striking back, d) giving in, and e) redrawing boundaries.
  2. In almost every conflict, each side sees itself as the righteous defender and the other side as the unrighteous aggressor.     
  3. The cycle can be broken with love that assertively confronts the aggression (rather than fleeing or surrendering) but also establishes tender human connections (rather than responding in kind).
  4. Assertive love defies normal expectations of conflict and thus pricks the hearts of the aggressors, bringing them to a sense of shared connectedness, and consequently breaking and transforming cycles of conflict.

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