A way of talking to oneself that calms anxiety and promotes self-acceptance.  The following are some examples:

It’s not worth getting upset over.

I’m not going to let my emotions get involved in that issue.

I have no real control over others’ behavior, only over my own.

I can learn from the experience regardless of how I perform.

I can be more effective if I remain calm and objective about the situation.

I’ll compare myself against myself rather than against others.

I can do what I can do, and that is all.

I’ll survive.

I’ll do the best I can, and that will be good enough.

Five years from now, who will care?

There is always a next time.

I could have done better, but at least I tried and did something.

Other people are going to be different from me – and that’s okay.

What is the worst thing that can happen?

No one can ever cause me pain if I do not allow them to.

So what?

It’s okay to make mistakes – that’s how I learn.

I can handle it.

I hope it happens, but I’m not going to expect it to.

It’s okay to be me and feel the way I do.

Worry won’t help solve the problem.

I’m a fallible human being (FHB), and that’s okay.

I can’t do anything about it now.

Let’s put this problem into an eternal perspective.

Step by step.

I am okay.

No one can be loved by everyone.

The only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.

I go in to kick the field goal thinking we are 35 points ahead.






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