A way of talking to oneself that calms anxiety and promotes self-acceptance. The following are some examples:
It’s not worth getting upset over.
I’m not going to let my emotions get involved in that issue.
I have no real control over others’ behavior, only over my own.
I can learn from the experience regardless of how I perform.
I can be more effective if I remain calm and objective about the situation.
I’ll compare myself against myself rather than against others.
I can do what I can do, and that is all.
I’ll do the best I can, and that will be good enough.
Five years from now, who will care?
There is always a next time.
I could have done better, but at least I tried and did something.
Other people are going to be different from me – and that’s okay.
What is the worst thing that can happen?
No one can ever cause me pain if I do not allow them to.
It’s okay to make mistakes – that’s how I learn.
I can handle it.
I hope it happens, but I’m not going to expect it to.
It’s okay to be me and feel the way I do.
Worry won’t help solve the problem.
I’m a fallible human being (FHB), and that’s okay.
I can’t do anything about it now.
Let’s put this problem into an eternal perspective.
Step by step.
I am okay.
No one can be loved by everyone.
The only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.
I go in to kick the field goal thinking we are 35 points ahead.