Perfectionism vs. Wholeness



Unreasonable goals

Obtainable, realistic goals

Self-worth is based on achievements

Self-worth is inherent

Can't feel satisfied

Can reward self

Based on comparisons with others

Recognizes individual uniqueness

Feels unloved and invalidated unless performing well; cannot share mistakes without excessive shame

Accepts self as valuable while acknowledging human weakness

Chronically experiences excessive fear of failure

Can accept failure as part of learning process; able to keep trying

External standards for success

Goals derived from inner awareness

Goals exceed performance by a great degree

Goals reflect growth to the next stage of progressive development

Cannot find pleasure in progress toward the goal; focus is only on the outcome

Enjoys the "journey"

Emphasis is on keeping life in control

Emphasis is on keeping life in balance

Self-Test for Perfectionism

Spiritual Approach to Overcoming Perfectionism

Articles from Church Magazines

To Perfection Amanda Dierenfeldt,  Ensign,  March 2009

What Does It Mean to be Perfect? Cecil O. Samuleson,  New Era,  January 2006

Confessions of a Perfectionist Kelli Allen-Pratt,  Ensign, June 2006

Articles from Other Sources

On Dealing with Uncertainty  Bruce C. Hafen, Devotional Address at BYU, January 9, 1979